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Finding Gratitude


I’ve not had what some would say the best of “karma” lately.  Last Saturday night, as I was heading out to meet up with my friends, I had a car accident. This was my first collision in over 10 years. 

Admittedly, I was a tad “out of sorts” as soon as the impact happened and I drove my car across the intersection and pulled over to the side of the rode to be out of the way of any traffic.  I knew I was OK…not injured.  Yes, I was wearing my seat belt as I always do and my body did jerk forward rather hard upon impact and fortunately, my airbag did not go off.

Within the first few minutes afterwards, although I was only a few miles from my home, I wasn’t sure if I would be able to get myself home.  It was 11:00 p.m. on a Saturday night, and I immediately started calling some of my friends to meet me where I was.  Fortunately, one of my friends was available and she met me and stayed with me while waiting for the police and then followed me home.

Although it was a cool evening, while we were waiting for the police to arrive, I couldn’t understand why I was cold and shivering even though I was sitting in my car  wearing a hooded sweatshirt and a denim jacket to keep warm while everyone else was not nearly as cold as I was.  As it turns out, I was experiencing mild shock and didn’t realize it at the time. 

The next day I was still a tad “out of sorts” and was in a melancholy mood and had a mild headache for the next few days.  I knew that this was due to my body being thrown out of alignment and some of the muscles in my neck, upper back and jaw had locked up on me. 

Fortunately, I do have friends who are in the health services industry I am able to call upon who take very good care of me.  One of my good friends is my naturopathic doctor who is also my chiropractor, and the other is my sports massage therapist.  I contacted them both and told them what happened and was able to be treated by both of them early that week. 

After my initial treatment by them, I felt a lot better and back to feeling more like myself, and, I had gotten the minor repairs on my car taken care of the same day my friends took care of me.

Despite the incident, I found gratitude in it. 

I was grateful that the collision was not more serious than it had turned out to be.

I was grateful that I was not injured nor was the other person involved injured.

I was grateful that the damage to my vehicle was minor and that my car was still driveable.

I was grateful that I had a friend I could call upon to meet me at the scene of the accident to ensure that I would get home safely.

I was grateful that I have friends in the health services industry who I could call upon to restore my “shocked” body back to normal.

One week later….Here we go again
One week later, Saturday night, I’m heading out to meet up with my friends and as I made it to my destination, I notice some haze in front of my headlights.  I look at the temperature gauge on my car and sure enough, my car was overheating.  So I coasted into a parking spot and noticed that there was fluid leaking from my car. 

There was nothing I could do about it and so I proceeded into the venue where my friends were.  They had asked me how I was and how my car was from the accident I had the previous week.  I looked at them and part of me just wanted to cry and the other part of me wanted a drink.

I proceeded to tell them that I am OK, and that my car was OK from the accident, but at the moment, all is not great.  I told them that my car had just  overheated as I got here.  One of my friends immediately told me, “No need to worry about getting home.  I will drive you home tonight” and I thanked my friend for that.

It was at that moment I once again was grateful.

Finding gratitude in bad karma

I was grateful that my car hadn’t overheated while I was on the highway driving at highway speeds at 11:00 at night on my way to meet up with my friends.

I was grateful that my car overheated once I reached my destination.

I was grateful that if this was going to happen, that it happened when and where it did.

I was grateful that it didn’t happen as I would’ve been heading home at 3:00 a.m. to find myself stranded on the side of the road.

I was grateful that I was at my favorite venue, the one place I know I am always safe…  where EVERYONE knows me, and where I am always surrounded by friends.

I was grateful to have friends who would be there for me when I needed help.

I was grateful that in spite of my evening starting off on the wrong foot, that I had a great time and enjoyed the evening.

I was grateful to have a friend who, picked me up at my house, drove me back to where my car was to meet the tow truck, follow the tow truck to my mechanic’s garage and drive me back home.

I was grateful that the tow bill was less than $100.00

I am grateful that the repair was less than $100.00

I am grateful that the same friend who picked me up at my home and drove me to  meet the tow truck, and drove me back home is the same friend who picked me up at my home, drove me to my mechanic so I could get my car back 🙂

Moral of the story
I know that these two incidences were very minor compared to more catastrophic incidences that people encounter but bear with me and believe me, I’m not looking to make a big deal out of things that are relatively minor.  However, there IS a moral to the story.

As I realized that I had so much to be grateful for despite these two incidences, I realize that most people wouldn’t be as positive and grateful as I am being.  I realize that most people would probably focus on the negative aspects of the situations they experience, whether they be minor or more serious.

Realizing this, I am once again grateful….. grateful because I am able to see the positive in what would be a sea of negativity.

When you find yourself experiencing a string of “bad luck or bad karma,” look for the positives and be grateful and you’ll discover that things aren’t as bad as you think they are or could be.

Having the attitude of gratitude can help get you through not only life’s smaller mishaps, but also the hard times, and unfortunate incidences that life throws your way with greater inner strength and perseverance.


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  1. 10 Comment(s)

  2. By Marc Wolpo | Reply

    I am grateful that you are my friend!

  3. By sharifitness | Reply

    Awwwhhhh….. thank you Mark 🙂

  4. By Michael Lindsay | Reply

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us Shari! It’s always good to find others that share my belief on the power of gratitude. In today’s “negative” world it’s getting harder and harder to remain gracious. I wrote a blog post a year or so ago on my “low information diet” I still apply this to my everyday life. I invite you to take a look at it if you like. I am not always up to date on current events, but it is MUCH easier to find gratitude in everything. The post is at

    Please leave a comment if you enjoy it.


  5. By Pamela DeVrou Smith | Reply

    Shari, There’s nothing better than a grateful heart! It combats so much negativity! No doubt there are always two ways of looking at any situation, and it’s always in the best interest to find “The bright side” and keep on keeping on! I enjoyed your article and am grateful you are in my life!

  6. By sharifitness | Reply

    @Michael ~ Thank you for your comment.

    We are bombarded with so much negative information day in day out, not just on TV, but on social media platforms as well.

    As a society, we have become conditioned to focus on negativity and have lost the art of being grateful, thankful and “counting our blessings”

    Expressing gratitude, thanking others and letting them know I appreciate them is something I practice on a daily basis.

    I will check out your article 🙂

  7. By sharifitness | Reply


    Thank you for your comment on this article. I am grateful you are in my life as well and look forward to meeting you when you are in town 🙂

    Keep spreading sunshine in the Twitterverse!


  8. By Sheri Bambrough | Reply

    Absolutely love your attitude and reaction Shari! This is definitely the best way tho handle the situation. Not only were you grateful for so many things in this, you were also proactive rather than reactive. Far to often we react to a situation rather than be proactive in dealing with it by getting done what needs to be done. Bonus was you also took it one step further, proactive and looking for the positive. The glass is half full, not half empty.
    Smiles, Sheri

  9. By sharifitness | Reply

    Thank you sooooo much Sheri for your comment.

    Hadn’t quite thought about my reaction in the way you presented it… “being proactive rather than reactive”….. that is a trait I have worked very hard at over the years.

    Thank you again for your kind words and comment. It is much appreciated 🙂


  10. By Divi | Reply

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Shari! It is great to see you finding the positives in the situation! Most people would focus on the negatives. Always see the silver lining rather than the dark cloud…that is what I always say! Hope you had a great weekend!

    Cheers! 🙂

  11. By sharifitness | Reply

    Hi Divi
    Thank you soooooo much for your comment and feedback on this blog.

    Being negative saps your energy and consumes not only your mood, but your health.

    Life is going to throw curve balls your way… it’s all in the matter in which you handle the pitch 😉

    Cheers to you!

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