Without a doubt, one of the most difficult things about losing fat is eating in social situations. We are, by nature, social creatures. Food is thought of as “communal”, and therefore, food tends to be the focus of most social gatherings.
Peer-pressure from friends and family can be the toughest test of your commitment as you want to fit in and not feel alienated or different simply because you are choosing to eat food that is different from everyone else.
Friendly Fire – aka “Misery Loves Company”
Establishing new habits is hard enough in the beginning. You are fighting so hard to overcome temptations and cravings, especially when you’re stressed, or had a really bad day.
Time and time again, I have seen clients become sabotaged by the people closest to them who aren’t looking to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle. It is at these times when you are your most vulnerable when those closest to you will sabotage your efforts by talking you into having a pizza, cheeseburger, etc., to help you “feel better” (because it’s what that person really wants and doesn’t want to be eating something unhealthy while you are choosing to eat differently).
It’s something I refer to in my Transformation Over 40 program as “friendly fire” and the best way to overcome it is to be aware of it, recognize that you are being manipulated and sabotaged so that you don’t succumb to it.
Be strong. Stay committed to your goal. Their food is not your food. Your food is aligned with who and what you want to be.
You can do it. I know…. I’ve been there.
You don’t have to succumb to diet peer pressure and here’s how you can stand up to diet peer pressure.
Success depends on 1 Key Person….. YOU
To succeed at a goal, you need to be COMMITED to doing everything you can to achieve that goal. People are afraid of commitment because commitment requires sacrifice. COMMITMENT and sacrifice requires COURAGE. Do you have the courage to succeed?
If you want to succeed, you have to lay the ground rules and stick to your goals. There is no room for debate. You are either in or you are out.
You have to be willing to ride out the discomfort you feel in eating food that is different from your friends and family in order to get different results than they have.
Be proud of the healthy changes and choices you are making. Don’t allow friends and family to make you feel guilty for making healthier choices……you might just surprise them when you show them that life can go on if you don’t eat chicken wings, hot dogs and pizza with them.
I would be willing to bet that there are a lot of folks in your life secretly wishing someone will take charge and be a healthy role model for them.
Tell the world
Facebook is such a great place to share your goals and what it is you are doing to achieve your goals with your friends and family. You’d be amazed at how people will rally around you, and the influence you may actually have on others.
I can tell you that I witness this first hand earlier this year.
A friend of mine who works in an industry that stereotypically doesn’t exactly promote living the healthiest lifestyle, decided to go on a 6 day juice fast after watching the documentary, “Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead” (great documentary, which I highly recommend you watch).
He began sharing his experience about it on Facebook over the 6 days, posting pictures and being very open and transparent about the whole thing. His juicing posts had received quite a bit of likes, lots of comments and a lot of conversation.
A lot of people who would have never considered “juicing” became curious about it and genuinely interested in giving it a try and began asking a lot of questions on my friend’s posts.
By sharing his 6 day juice fast experience throughout the 6 days on Facebook, this particular friend became an influence on others who would never in a million years would have entertained the thought of giving juicing a try and actually made it a cool thing to do. To my surprise, even one of my closest friends who had been following these posts became interested, invested in a juicer and gave it a try. She even got one of her other friends into trying it.
The impact my friend had, sharing his “let me try a 6 day juice fast to see what it’s like and see if I can stick it out over the 6 days” on Facebook made quite an impact on others simply because he lead by example, without preaching or being condescending and in turn, built an entourage of social support of people who wanted to be healthy and improve their health like my friend did.
Healthy is the new sexy-cool
Thanks to social media, living a healthy lifestyle and making healthier choices is the new sexy-cool. There is a much higher awareness of how harmful processed foods is to our health as well as our waist lines and how important exercise is to having a rockin’ body.
There are hundreds of motivating image-messages (a.k.a. memes, infographics) of healthy, fit, men and women as well as healthy foods filtering through our social media news feeds every day that more and more people are aspiring to be those images.
The problem is even though many people want to make better food choices, there is so much confusion and misinformation that many people become over whelmed and don’t know where to start, and so, they don’t get started and remain stuck.
By stepping up to the plate – (no pun intended), and choosing to eat foods you know will contribute to your health and fitness, you never know the impact or influence your actions and commitment will have on someone else…… and that impact can have a positive chain reaction and there’s nothing more rewarding than making a positive impact on others simply by having the commitment and courage to sticking to your goal.
Now that’s really sexy-cool! 😉